I'm Vera. For five years I've been the one in charge: my husband wears a cage, keeps the house, takes his punishments — and we're both happier than we were. This is what it actually looks like: not scenes, but daily life. Names and details changed.

Twenty minutes after the children fall asleep, a latched study door and three knocks. What happened the night our youngest knocked himself, and why nobody…

On Tuesday he corrected me in front of my mother. On Thursday I gave him my stockings, a pile of post and a notebook, and went out to dinner.

He finished the skillet, I set the folder down: 120 questions on our rules, ten at random.

One Tuesday in a female led marriage: the morning cage check, the notebook by my cup, the reply-within-the-hour rule, the report at the door, and the key that…

A year ago at this hour we were screaming over a bag of rubbish. Tonight he dries the plates, the key to his cage is in my bag by the door, and I sit with cold…

I had my husband wear my thong to Sunday dinner at his parents’. Three hours at the table, my hand on his knee, the string in my fist while he talked to the…

He dropped a plate past midnight and asked me to decide everything. A sleepless night, the first order at breakfast, dinner by eight and the dishes I didn’t…
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