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Why Training Never Feels Finished in FLR

Why Training Never Feels Finished in FLR

The phrase rests on a mistake: as if the goal is to bring him to a perfectly obedient state after which "training is finished." No such state exists. Submission is a process, not a destination; "he slipped again" is not a failure but the raw material itself — a reason to show power once more, not proof that everything is pointless.

Complaining "how many times do I have to say it" only hands your power away: an irritated dominant is less in control than one who simply says, "Again?

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